Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

Hey Besties! Today, we get to listen to the second half of Violetta’s conversation with Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. 

Violetta and Sarah will dig deep into what it means to have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, how to overcome it, and how it can potentially affect your current and future relationships. Discover how your nervous system is the puppeteer of your relationships, unravel the mysteries of anxious and avoidant attachments, and get the lowdown on why opposites attract but might not always stick. Learn the golden rules of relationship arguments, decode the dynamic dance between different attachment styles, and embrace the bravest steps towards love. Whether you're anxiously engaged or coolly detached, it's time to understand, set boundaries, and find out why, in the game of love, we're all wonderfully complex.

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

00:24 How does your nervous system affect your relationships?

02:04 How does Anxious Attachment style develop?

03:47 How does Avoidant Attachment style develop?

05:18 What should you do if you have avoidant attachment?

10:39 What should you do if you have anxious attachment? 

12:39 Anxious and avoidant attachment attract each other

17:22 The golden rule: Two dysregulated people can’t solve an argument

20:41 Most common dynamic between anxious and avoidant people

21:37 We can be both avoidant and anxious

24:03 Why both avoidantly and anxiously attached people are often misunderstood 

28:14 We need to learn to understand each other

30:04 A lot of us feel we’re so f*cked up

35:46 What is the bravest thing an avoidant person can do in a relationship?

37:26 Can an avoidant and anxiously attached person have a relationship?

40:56 Fear and excitement have the same somatic sensory response

44:32 The people we need to set boundaries will resist those boundaries the most

48:12 When to know that the other person is not yet safe for you to be in a relationship with

55:16 We all make sense and there’s nothing wrong with us

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Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.

Today we dive into sliding into dm's, my intrusive thoughts and lots more.

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Hey Besties! Welcome to another Benson Book Club Tuesday! It’s been a favorite so we will discuss another chapter of 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Violetta dives into a heartfelt exploration of the transient nature of relationships, where we ponder the journey from being strangers to becoming lovers, and sometimes, strangers once again. This podcast delves into the gratitude we owe to those who've departed from our lives, the insights gained from lost love, and the realization that every encounter has its purpose, often serving as a lesson in our personal growth. Through stories and reflections, we uncover the essence of our connections, learning to appreciate every moment and person as part of our life's evolving narrative.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:47 How we go from lovers to strangers
• 04:50 We all start as strangers
• 05:59 Why should we be thankful for the people who left?
• 10:48 What do people who have lost love know?
• 19:16 The purpose of our relationships is…
• 22:49 One day, you’ll realize that they were just a lesson 

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Hey Besties! Let’s welcome Alex Bennett and Jordyn Woodruff, the duo behind the Mean Girl podcast. In the show, these two come together for honest conversations about sex, friendship, mental health, and living in the big city as outsiders.

Violetta, Alex, and Jordyn didn’t hold back as they talked about what makes friendships last, setting boundaries (because, hello, we need space!), and why growing apart might just mean you're growing up. Ever wonder how to navigate friendships when life stages change or how to detox from toxic pals? We've got you covered! Plus, get the scoop on making friends in your fabulous late 20s. Because, let's face it, friends are the family we choose, and it's never too late to add to your tribe!

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

01:36 How’s LA?

03:59 Do you make friends easily?

04:21 How has making friends changed over the years?

07:44 People who are able to maintain lasting friendships are green flags

09:51 Does it matter how long you’ve been friends?

15:31 How do you define a good friend?

18:07 Scared to rely on friends too much

21:29 Create boundaries with your friends

23:24 Friendships growing apart as you mature

32:36 If you’re not growing apart, you’re not growing up

35:20 Do you stay friends with your married friends?

39:42 Have you experienced a toxic friendship?

43:06 Choose your friends who will say your name in a room full of opportunities

44:28 Gossiping is false friendship bonding

48:46 If you constantly talk about other people and nothing else

54:51 How did you realize it was toxic?

59:30 She’s my BFF but she stole my ex

01:05:06 What did you learn from a toxic friendship?

01:07:31 How to heal from a friendship breakup

01:15:11 How to make new friends in your late 20s

01:16:43 You will continue to make friends your entire life

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Hey Besties! In today’s Benson Book Club, Violetta will take inspiration from Men Don’t Love Women Like You! by G.L. Lambert - a manual on how to stop manipulation, command attention, and be seen as a must have by any man. Let's take a look into men's true intentions in romance, separating truths from "D*ck Lies," understanding sexual significance, and uncovering why men pursue new conquests. Learn why you might be unknowingly auditioning for a role you didn't choose in the complexity of love and desire.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:49 Chapter 3: Dick Lies 
• 05:52 How will he know if you’re a fling or not
• 08:05 S*x is everything and nothing
• 09:02 What does s*x mean to a man?
• 11:45 Why men chase after new p*ssies
• 15:00 Men claiming it’s not about s*x
• 21:17 Men don’t always pressure you to have s*x
• 25:17 Most women don’t realize the role they are playing
• 26:54 S*xual chemistry doesn’t disappear because you’re only talking
• 27:44 You’re being groomed for a placeholder position

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Hey Besties! Today, we welcome Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. She focuses on showing individuals that they are safe and can get unstuck, which leads to thriving and living the life they're meant to live. 

Violetta and Sarah will unpack everything from why your nervous system might be more tangled than your headphone cords, to the truth behind why we sometimes mix up safety with danger. Ever wondered why your relationships feel like a soap opera? We've got the lowdown on that too. And for those moments when you're feeling more 'meh' than magical, we'll guide you through the maze of moods to find your way back to fabulous. So, buckle up and prepare to confront the uncomfortable with a heap of insight - because understanding your inner workings should never be boring!

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• Nuuly - Nuuly is a great value at $98 a month for any 6 styles, but right now you can get $20 off your first month of Nuuly when you sign up with the code ADULTING20. Just go to https://www.nuuly.com/  

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

02:00 How to tell if someone is emotionally regulated / dysregulated?

03:57 What is the nervous system & what does it have to do with emotional regulation?

10:25 Why is having a dysregulated nervous system so common?

12:05 The reason why we sometimes perceive safety as danger

17:04 What does dysregulation look like in relationships?

20:37 Can I always feel "good"?

21:51 The four primary states we go through

29:43 Is our nervous system attached to our childhood experiences

32:05 You're not your dysregulated reactions, and that's okay

35:50 Taking tolerable steps towards the things that scare us

36:04 How to confront the uncomfortable

39:25 You’re in the right track if you find it difficult to do

43:23 How to pull yourself out of unhappiness through regulation

46:39 Learning how to have safe confrontations

50:04 How to create a list that makes you feel alive

53:26 What are the best somatic practices to regulate our nervous system?

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Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.

Today we dive into the TEXT that ENDED my toxic friendship, vision board update, and how to be successfully delusional. 

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Hey Besties! Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray. The book provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them.  

Today, Violetta will talk about the dynamics of motivation and love as she unpacks the secrets to motivating the opposite sex and explores the balance between love, responsibility, and boundaries. From understanding the importance of making a positive difference in someone's life to recognizing the fine line between need and neediness, Violetta dishes out her signature blend of wisdom and wit. So get ready to uncover the keys to fostering meaningful connections and navigating the ups and downs of modern romance. 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:34 How to motivate the opposite s*x
• 09:54 When a man is in love, he’s motivated more
• 11:27 When a man doesn’t feel he’s making a positive difference in someone’s life
• 15:22 Many women today want time off, a time for themselves
• 21:51 A woman needs to recognize her boundaries
• 22:55 Step 1 - Motivation
• 23:56 Step 2 - Taking Responsibility
• 24:45 Step 3 - Practice
• 26:03 As man experiences limits, he is motivated to do more
• 28:38 The difference between needing and neediness
• 31:16 A man appears most caring when he is afraid

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Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.

Today we dive into how to change your perspective when it comes to goodbyes, people, being ghosted and when he doesn't want you - from the why to the how to the moving on.

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Hey Besties! For another Benson Book Club session, we’re going to dive deep into Why We Hold On Tightest on the Things That Aren’t Meant for Us from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think.  Violet shares her candid insights on navigating the complexities of relationships - from moving on from unrequited love and why we often find ourselves drawn to those who can't reciprocate our feelings to invaluable advice on finding peace and self-love amidst the chaos of modern romance. It's time to empower yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 05:07 How to let go of the things that’s killing you inside?
• 10:22 You can't convince someone to love you if they don’t
• 19:21 How do you fall out of love with the idea of someone?
• 24:13 Why do we keep choosing people who can’t love us back? 

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