Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

For the third week of the cult month, we’re going to do things differently. In a special 2 part episode, this week we will be looking deeper into the Kardashian conglomerate with a different lens and focusing on how their success is anchored on controlling their narrative, building an ever-evolving empire, and remaining uniquely influential.  

Today on Almost Adulting we welcome MJ Corey! MJ, better known as kardashian_kolloquium on TikTok, is a writer and psychotherapist from Brooklyn. She gained starpower on social media by applying media theory and postmodern philosophy to the entire Kardashian family, their reality show, and their overall impact on society through critical thinking. Violet and MJ begin the conversation by defining what postmodernism is and how it equates to celebrities becoming commodities as opposed to civilians. They then move to discussing how the Kardashians are at the top of a modern cult wherein their influence gives them the control over the media and set trends that are both impactful and life changing - far beyond Instagram and fashion. The two also exchange thoughts on the current state and definition of “celebrity”, how our subconscious has been so deeply penetrated by the media, and this culture of hate that is both beneficial and disadvantageous to any celebrity and/or influencer. Part 2 coming soon…

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:56 Applying different philosophies and theories to the Kardashian family
• 02:56 What is postmodernism?
• 06:32 What is media theory? 
• 10:47 The reality they want people to see
• 15:20 The Kardashians are a cult?
• 23:27 It started with the infamous sex tape
• 31:49 Humans are not used to being worshiped
• 33:57 Using media to propagate and idealized idea
• 37:28 Reality TV is the a commodification of everyday life
• 39:19 How impactful real time tweets are
• 43:10 Everyone has the right to control their narrative
• 48:05 Repetition and imitation are the essence of social media
• 50:08 Was it a lucky time to dominate social media?
• 54:12 The more people hate you, the more you matter
• 01:02:20 Content come in fast
• 01:05:13 Curated on hate

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GHOSTED IN OCTOBER? HOW FESTIVE!!

Today's Tuesday episode, Violet dives into winning a job interview, why people who hurt you pretend like you're the bad person, what to do when you've been ghosted, what it feels like, why you didn't see it coming and why it hurts so much, steps to move on, and the type of person that ghosting affects the MOST.

Violet then ends the episode with some research behind this topic, a discussion about the effects of loneliness, getting rejected, ruminating, having low self esteem, and the importance of building emotional resilience for a better quality of life.

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Continuing with cult month, today we are diving into the world of NXIVM where we welcome two survivors turned whistleblowers of a very famous cult masked as an MLM company. NXIVM became widely known during their high profile RICO case involving celebrities, billionaire heiresses, and the FBI. 

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet speaks with Sarah Edmondson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames, hosts of A Little Bit Culty podcast and former members of NXIVM. Founded by Keith Raniere, NXIVM posed themselves as a self-improvement group, only to later be exposed as a “sex cult” by extorting, sex trafficking, and implementing force labor upon its members. Sarah and Nippy open up about the details of how they were lured into NXIVM, what it was like on the inside, and the horrifying secrets they discovered after Sarah was forcibly branded. Sarah and Nippy tell the story of how they were integral to the downfall of NXIVM and the arrest of its leaders. The couple is also recently featured in HBO’s The Vow, a documentary diving into the world of NXIVM, and Sarah is also the author of Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My Life.

TW: sexual abuse

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:06 What is NXIVM?
• 02:24 All cults have a mission of ‘saving the world’
• 07:54 “That will not happen to me.”
• 10:28 Why is it important for cults to isolate themselves?
• 12:38 NXIVM is a personality cult
• 17:22 How did it become an MLM cult?
• 23:39 Ranking within the cult
• 27:56 Feeling guilty for recruiting people
• 33:04 The women sub-group: DOS
• 42:12 When women take advantage of other women
• 45:11 Triggering the downfall of the cult
• 48:10 Removing the branding
• 49:56 Are there any people right now that should be in jail? 

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• Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My Life
• Sarah Edmondson
• Anthony Ames

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Today, Besties, Violet is taking a break from discussing cults because ya'll couldn't even go 2 weeks without falling apart and needing your big sis for advice!! so Violet is here for the rescue with today's AMAZING episode all about the truth behind "right person, wrong time"

Depending what you take from today's episode, for those who decide to walk away from their situationship, Violet softens the blow by finishing the episode, with 9 steps to get over someone, even if you never actually dated!

The 9 steps are:

1 . Cut communication

2. Cry, like a lot

3. Get a hobby

4. Don't react to anything

5. Get your ass out of the house

6. Find yourself a rebound

7. Forgive your ex

8. Trust that time heals

9. Forgive yourself and LOVE YOURSELF

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WELCOME TO CULT MONTH ON THE PODCAST!!

On today's short episode, Violet walks you through the cults we will be covering this month along with trigger warnings before we fully dive in starting this Thursday.

Violet Covers NXIVM, Children of God, The Kardashians, and Scientology.

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Besties, throughout September we covered all things personal growth and really checked in with each other. So the best way to end this month is by talking to Neil Strauss, a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Though this sounds a little questionable, the topic here is GROWTH, which is exactly what’s displayed here today. 

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet and Neil begin the conversation by diving right into the controversy of his best selling book, The Game. Violet asks Neil to dive deep to help people understand who he was at that time and unpack the chokehold the book had on society. Of course, this isn't an Almost Adulting episode if the two didn’t talk about relationships. Neil explains why divorce was one of the best things him and his ex-wife could have ever done, leading them to having an amazing relationship today. They also discuss the common mistakes that often lead to breakups, how to move on from said breakups, and why a cheater will remain a cheater unless they mention these specific words…tune in Besties!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:40 This is how lonely I’ve gotten
• 04:41 See you guys again at Hollywood Improv!
• 08:25 I get to experience being 15 years old again
• 11:39 The Game
• 17:32 What’s the dirtiest advice?
• 19:20 Non-violent communication
• 22:37 If you’re both not ready, it’s not going to happen
• 24:22 Getting drawn to people familiar to you
• 27:32 Work on yourself and improve your emotional intelligence
• 28:42 Can a player change their ways?
• 31:37 Both partner have to make the relationship work
• 34:12 A relationships isn’t a failure if it ends
• 36:18 How to create a happy relationship?
• 37:32 How do you move on from a relationship that didn’t work?
• 39:20 When you see your partner like a parent
• 43:28 How do you overcome being the villain?
• 45:35 The cheating ex
• 46:54 Do you believe cheaters can change?

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BE DELUSIONAL.

Today Violet teaches you to choose yourself first, whether it's being delusional that everything will work out or changing your perspective on what you reality is. Violet believes that every day you have a choice. So TODAY why not choose to be delusional??!! and choose to change your life.

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When going through a tough time the most annoying thing in the world is everyone seems to have all the advice on what you “should” do, right? Well you’re not alone, but the reality is that sometimes these things recommended to us are actually things we should be doing - but before we can even fathom doing them, we have to drop our bad habits. 

Besties, welcome Amy Morin to Almost Adulting! Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist, and responsible for one of the most popular Ted Talks of all time. Today Violet and Amy start the conversation by unpacking the often stressful topic of habits - how we form them, stick to them, and what we can do when we accidentally break our positive habits. The duo dives into what our bad habits say about us, and the importance of breaking them in order to create good ones. Through this, Amy teaches that mental strength and mental health are actually two entirely different things, and how the lies that our brain tells us affect us on a much deeper level than we realize. Finally, the ladies discuss a topic that life never prepares us for: grief.  Though grief is something no one can avoid, it’s never something anyone is ready for. Through Amy telling her story she learned coping mechanisms that truly changed her life, and that EVERYTHING always relates back to one thing…habits. Whether it be maintaining good ones, or breaking bad ones, habits can be HARD, so give each other grace and tune in to discover the tools you didn’t know you needed. 

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• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:38 How long does it take to break a good habit?
• 05:45 The way we respond to breaking a habit matters
• 07:39 It’s just a bad choice, you’re not a bad person  
• 08:40 When you’re stuck in the pity trap
• 12:50 Moving on with life without feeling guilty
• 17:17 Too much social media can trigger envy
• 20:34 Three kinds of destructive beliefs
• 23:27 Start challenging your underlying beliefs
• 27:00 It’s up to you how you respond to people
• 30:54 It’s okay to be honest with your struggles
• 33:32 Not everything is up to chance
• 36:05 We only hear the end game of every success story
• 38:41 Just set doable goals a day
• 41:29 Do you believe in toxic positivity?
• 45:14 Improving your mental strength 

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Welcome to Tuesday's Vault Archives and to the 3rd week of September on the podcast!!

On this episode, Nazanin comes on and shares things most people didn't know about her, from her insecurities, to how bad days, to how she overcame her eating disorder, and how being a child of divorce affected her outlook on love.

They then dive into her definition of cheating, the ups and downs of her and singer/songwriter Miguel's relationship from a much needed breakup to how they make long distance work, dealing with jealousy, handling "Instagram hoes", busy schedules, her love non negotiables, and how they keep the spark alive after 17 years.

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Though we all come from different backgrounds and realities, we are all dreamers. No matter the hardships faced or the obstacles thrown in our way, that doesn’t mean we should be cruel and harsh to ourselves. We can dream multiple dreams even when we can only realize them one at a time.

Today we welcome Barrett Pall to Almost Adulting! Barrett is a humanitarian and professional life coach to CEOs of fortune 500 companies, celebrities, Middle Eastern Royalty, and everyday incredible humans - because that is what we all are. Today's episode is opened by a conversation about Barrett finding his voice through the trials and tribulations of his life, which led him to become a major advocate for the LGBTQ community and underprivileged communities. Based on his life experiences, Barrett explains how he was always a dreamer and teaches tools to help practice constant gratitude and mental awareness, regardless of how dark the world may seem at times. Finally, the duo discusses why setting boundaries for yourself especially when using social media is a must, the importance of taking care of yourself so you are able to take care of others, and how we always have a choice of how we approach life and our dreams. Besties, sometimes the going gets tough, but you are never alone - tune in to find out why!

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• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:05 Advocating for the LGBTQ community
• 05:12 You have nothing to apologize for or explain yourself
• 06:58 Were you always this positive?
• 08:27 You get to choose if you need to change yourself
• 11:18 Getting obsessed over others sexuality
• 18:16 Stay open for change in all ways
• 22:43 It’s about connection for a lot of people
• 24:48 Queer men can do everything a straight men can do
• 26:24 What money?
• 29:00 No one needs to be babied anymore
• 30:02 Safety practices when using social media
• 34:28 How do you set boundaries?
• 38:09 To dream is a privilege
• 45:22 Take care of yourself first
• 48:10 How do you give back to others?
• 49:12 When you feel you don’t fit in
• 55:35 Hike your own hike

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