Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

And sometimes…we just need to hear the cold hard truth. Kidding. But when you only focus on the negative things in life, you don’t realize that that’s all you’re allowing your life to be. We all deserve the most beautiful things in life, and sometimes tough love from your bestie is exactly what you needed to hear.

Today we welcome TV host, podcaster, and Sports Illustrated model Kamie Crawford to Almost Adulting! Violet and Kamie, instant besties and Scorpio sisters, start off the conversation by talking brutally honestly about some of their own faults, and even their friends. They discuss how their delivery may not always be the best, but it may just be a Scorpio thing. They also talk in depth about Kamie’s life post her 5-year relationship, how NOT having a rebound after a breakup is a painful part of growing up, the two forms of cheating, and which of them is truly worse than the other. The truth hurts besties, no matter which way you put it.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:48 If you’re arguing with a Scorpio
• 03:59 Something that most people don’t know about you
• 08:15 What is your love language?
• 14:15 Getting too sensitive
• 18:13 Changing yourself to make someone love you
• 22:59 Who’s more jealous in your relationships?
• 27:15 Define cheating
• 32:50 Cheating in marriage
• 36:15 “I remember my first boyfriend…”
• 39:01 Ending a 5-year relationship
• 43:40 The hardest part of a breakup
• 46:42 “I don’t have a problem playing the villain…”
• 51:31 What’s something you'll never put up with again?
• 56:34 Taking accountability for what you did wrong
• 59:57 Unrealistic expectations about finding a partner
• 01:03:18 “You’ve just known him for two days!”
• 01:07:52 Do you still believe in love?

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• Relationsh*t Podcast
• Catfish: The TV Show

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Welcome to another TUESDAY EPISODE!!! A short and sweet episode to get your week started!

Today, Violet answers some of your silly questions and then dives into some tips on winning a breakup like the bad b*tch that you are!! From how to leave them dumbfounded when they try to dump you, like an actual step by step playbook, to what to do post breakup.

Follow this guide, and they will be running back to you in no time!!! but hopefully by then, you won't even want their stinky a$$ back anyway. ew.

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Read it and weep besties. It’s the truth. Stop wasting your time over a boy who just wants you around to boost his ego, to do his bidding, and to make himself more attractive to other women. Boys are just now learning how to live without their mom doing their laundry for them, let alone know a thing about commitment yet. Boys will keep you waiting and play mind games with you, and the LAST thing we’re doing is putting up with it any longer.

Today, we welcome Patti Stanger back to Almost Adulting. As a third generation matchmaker, Patti founded the Millionaire's Club in January of 2000 after serving five years as the Director of Marketing/Special Events for Great Expectations, the oldest and largest dating service in the U.S. Given her expertise in matchmaking and Violet’s experience in dating men, the duo talks about the male logic while dating, why successful women have higher standards and don’t consider marriage in their early twenties and why we should always keep a three-man rotation. Violet and Patti also discuss the effects of poor parenting, the real reason why men take advantage of the woman emotionally, and the many complicated aspects of dating while technology is evolving. You’re gonna want your pen and paper out for this, everything you’re about to hear is FACT.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:04 We all can’t be Kim Kardashan
• 06:20 Why do we pick who we pick?
• 08:26 If you give a man too much of anything
• 14:52 Dating a boy versus a man
• 18:09 You want to know what their intentions are
• 22:05 If you allow yourself to be used
• 25:51 Is giving an ultimatum a good idea?
• 28:46 You get the ring when you have self respect
• 32:07 Why do we give our hearts too quickly?
• 35:17 Be realistic with your standards
• 40:19 Cheating is not the end, check other options
• 46:30 Love bombers are mostly nacissists
• 49:05 Red flags vs green flags
• 52:44 The effects bad relationships have on kids
• 57:21 How do you handle the high’s and low’s?
• 01:00:32 Why are you wasting time?
• 01:06:37 Being able to do other things
• 01:10:11 Do I have to calm down my intensity to not scare off men?
• 01:13:01 What’s the best advice you’ve received?    

Connect with Patti on:

• Instagram
• Twitter
• Books
• Millionaire's Club
• Matchmaker Fragrance

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Besties, you are in for a TREAT! PART TWO!!!!

Welcome to the CONFESSION CORNER! The Confession Corner is a brand new installment where you guys get to anonymously call ME, and have a chance to be featured on the show! 

Today we are continuing with part 2 to last week's Confession Corner where we talked all about SUGAR DADDIES. Yep, the good, the bad, and the…wrinkly? Today you will hear me react and dissect your stories from ALL of your sugar daddy escapades. It is about to get WILD and I’m so excited to hear from you guys. 

Violet also includes a VERY spicy story about a prominent figure in Hollywood who has a thing for considerably younger women…the tea is piping hot this week.

Make sure to pay attention to my stories on @VioletBenson and @AlmostAdulting for YOUR next chance to be featured on the Confession Corner! 

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Besties, you are in for a TREAT!

Welcome to CONFESSION CORNER! The Confession Corner will be a bi-monthly installment where you guys get to anonymously call ME, and have a chance to be featured on the show! This is an entirely new concept and something I have been working on for a little bit now that will be released on Tuesdays bi-weekly!

For our very first Confession Corner we’re talking all about SUGAR DADDIES. Yep, the good, the bad, and the…wrinkly? Today you will hear me react and dissect your stories from all of your sugar daddy escapades. From getting your butthole licked in a public coffee shop, to the masochist who wanted her to dress up in a Nacho Libre wrestling suit and beat the sh*t out of him - it is about to get WILD and I’m so excited to hear from you guys. Make sure to pay attention to my stories on @VioletBenson and @AlmostAdulting for YOUR next chance to be featured on the Confession Corner!

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They say you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife, but we’d like to think otherwise.

At some point in our life, whether we are at the height of our career or living our best single lives, we all want to find that one person we can spend the rest of our life with, right? That one true love we all grew up hoping to find one day. I mean, at the very least, who doesn’t want to be with the best partner and have the best s*x at the drop of a dime?

Besties, today we are joined by Hannah Berner! Hannah is the host of two extremely successful podcasts Giggly Squad and Berning In Hell, a standup comedian, reality TV star, and now here with us on Almost Adulting! Today Violet and Hannah waste no time getting into things beginning with Violet calling out Hannah for not inviting her to her wedding! Hannah then goes into detail about her transition from hoe life to wife life, what it’s like dating (then marrying) an older guy, falling in love with someone you least expect to fall in love with, and why you should look for a partner that takes ugly photos of you. The two superstars also talk about the harsh realities of their professions and why checking in with yourself mentally is SO important. This episode is jam packed with hilarious stories and advice so sit back and listen up!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:26 The first time I saw you…
• 04:01 Oh, cults?
• 06:38 Let’s talk about weddings
• 11:05 Would you date an older guy?
• 15:47 What people don’t know about me…
• 19:25 When people hurt other people
• 23:24 What’s your definition of happiness?
• 28:11 When you open up and stop pretending to be someone else
• 30:44 Loving someone you didn’t imagine ending up with
• 34:55 Going to the extremes, being emotionally unavailable
• 39:29 What is the purpose when you post on social media?
• 44:24 What about love that scared you the most?
• 47:38 Compatibility in marriage
• 53:47 This is how the chase starts
• 56:15 Being loved even at your lowest
• 01:02:18 One person can’t be your everything
• 01:06:30 Has your definition of love changed over the years?
• 01:09:48 What I like about his d*ck… 
• 01:11:50 How does it feel to have a life partner?

Connect with Hannah on:

• TikTok
• Twitter
• Instagram
• Website
• Giggle Squad Podcast
• Berning In Hell Podcast

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WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!

Your toxic relationsh*t may actually have a chance IF you listen to this episode

Today I have Empathy therapist Figs on the podcast where we discuss, Types of empathy, the importance of having empathy for yourself, becoming the one you've been waiting for, our coping mechanisms, what your partner is really feeling but not saying when you fight.

We then dive into turning your toxic relationship back into love, attachment styles, being emotionally unavailable, self sabotaging, reaching true intimacy, and why it's so hard letting go of a relationship where the other person has moved on.

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Hey, Besties! It’s the first Thursday of July and this month, we are celebrating relationships! My favorite topic because I am OBVIOUSLY so good at them! So get comfortable because we’re about to get uncomfortable! This entire month we’re discussing love, partnerships, the different types of partnerships, and unpacking all the good, bad, and the ugly that comes with them! But before we get into that, Violet gives a quick life update and tells us about her recent rendezvous to Greece, where she planned on sight seeing and ATVing, but…all she got was c*caine and ket. Better luck next time!

See the thing is, we’re ALMOST Adulting. Never said we were all the way there yet! Today, we have Bridget Kelly & Mandii B, hosts of the See, The Thing Is podcast - and with Violet joining the mix, we’ve found the trio you never knew you needed! In this episode we’re covering it ALL. From being the other woman, being the cheater, why or why not we plan on getting married, and even childhood trauma that shaped how we approach relationships in our adult lives. Violet, Bridget, and Mandii start the conversation off hot by diving into the various types of relationships, from the most traditional types, to the polar opposite. With varying opinions on basically everything, this episode is sure to open your mind to some things you definitely have never considered before. The trio also discusses living as modern day women (who’s independent and doesn’t need ANY man - but may want one!) and where men stand when in a relationship with self-sustaining, self-providing, successful career women. We’re starting this month off hot besties, so get ready!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 03:21 My “amazing” vacation in Greece 
• 12:43 Compartmentalizing relationships
• 13:53 Do you believe in marriage?
• 17:53 Is a healthy polyamorous relationship sustainable?
• 22:39 When you cheated on your partner…
• 27:00 How does it feel like to cheat on someone?
• 28:41 The perfect partner?
• 37:24 As a modern day woman
• 42:19 Is it so strange to have so many friends?
• 46:23 Don’t discount your education completely
• 51:30 Successful women set the bar high
• 52:37 What are the 3 things you look for in someone?
• 56:17 Should you forgive your parents for not being perfect?
• 58:50 Dating a man with children
• 01:05:58 You don’t need to agree but stay respectful
• 01:11:05 You can tell when someone goes to therapy
• 01:13:16 Living with the truth of who you really are

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• Instagram
• Twitter
• Patreon

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• @violetbenson on Instagram
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Are things ever going TOO well so your brain forces you to mess it up?

Trust me, you’re not alone! As part of our human nature, we yearn for genuine love and affection. We tend to gravitate toward relationships that will reinforce our need for affection and validate our feelings. We always search for someone who can be there with us when we feel lost and helpless, and someone who can embrace us even when we feel unworthy of love. Sounds simple enough right? But if all of that is true, why do all of my relationships keep turning into relationsh*ts?! Well today besties, we’re getting some answers. 

Today, we have Jessica Baum. Jessica is a psychotherapist, author, thought leader, relationship coach, and founder of the Be Self-full® - a company that provides tailored coaching services, helping women empower themselves. Out of the four relationship attachment styles, Violet and Jessica put their focus on the Anxious and Avoidant style and why people who possess these attachment styles are easily drawn to each other. So if you’re wondering why things can be going GREAT only for your brain to shut down and force you to run away, you’re about to find out! Don’t worry, you’re not as messed up as you think you are. The duo also talks about how love bombing, despite its negative connotation online, can be pleasantly genuine, how to set healthy boundaries for you and your relationships, how we actually CAN get addicted to a person, and why we are responsible for our own anxiety. We’re unpacking A LOT today -  but whatever it is you do, do NOT text your ex after this. So hit play and listen up!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:09 What’s your attachment  style?
• 06:42 Avoidant and anxious styles both fear intimacy
• 08:14 Anxious-avoidant dance
• 12:52 Genuine love bombing
• 15:22 Partner with someone who could stay calm for you
• 19:39 How can you help a partner with anxious attachment style
• 26:33 Setting boundaries without hurting other people
• 29:17 From really good to really bad relationships real fast
• 30:41 Why do we tend to self-sabotage?
• 33:33 How is the nervous system related to our relationship?
• 35:26 Is it possible to get addicted to someone?
• 38:50 What is a healthy chemistry like? 
• 40:59 Anxious people are responsible for their own anxiety
• 43:19 How do you recognize an unhealthy pattern in your love life?
• 47:45 What does it mean to be “Be Self Full”?
• 50:37 Self full is all about love

Connect with Jessica on:

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• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• Anxiously Attached Book

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WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!

On Today's episode, we close hookup month on the podcast and pride month with my favourite humans who are also part of the LGBTQ+ community, Amy Ordman and Jack Doge.

We start the episode with coming out stories before diving right into zodiac signs, the rule of thumb for dating, how to not get affected with being ghosted, our love for toxic people, why we push people away, love at first sight, why you shouldn't change for someone, myths about gays and lesbians, vageens insecurities, seggs seggs seggs, wild stories and butthole pics, and open relationships in the gay community.

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