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In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we name and honor the “safe house” of solitude—why it feels protective after heartbreak and why it can quietly become a ceiling. Sparked by an Instagram quote from Afsa Rosette about theory vs. practice, we unpack the psychology behind avoidance, shame, and nervous-system safety, and we begin moving from thinking about connection to practicing it—one inch at a time.
In this episode, we cover:
Why solitude feels like medicine (and when it turns into a cage)
The Instagram quote that inspired this series: theory vs. practice in love
Avoidance learning: how “canceling” teaches the brain to avoid again
Prediction error & the brain’s craving for certainty (why dating feels costly)
Shame sensitivity: how isolation shields us from feedback—but blocks intimacy
Social baseline theory: why life feels lighter with safe others
Window of tolerance: stretching without overwhelming your system
Negativity bias & rewriting the story your brain keeps replaying
Approach–avoidance conflict: wanting love and fearing it at the same time
Practical “open the door one inch” ideas: tiny exposures that build capacity
Guided visualization + journaling moments sprinkled throughout
Reflection Question of the Week:
What has your safe house given you, what has it cost you, and what would opening the door one inch look like this week?
Resources Mentioned:
Afsa Rosette’s quote on theory vs. practice (Instagram)
Avoidance learning & exposure principles (behavioral psychology)
Social baseline theory (co-regulation and reduced perceived effort)
Window of tolerance (Siegel; arousal & capacity)
Negativity bias (evolutionary psychology; why pain sticks)
Approach–avoidance conflict (motivational psychology)
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In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we name and honor the “safe house” of solitude—why it feels protective after heartbreak and why it can quietly become a ceiling. Sparked by an Instagram quote from Afsa Rosette about theory vs. practice, we unpack the psychology behind avoidance, shame, and nervous-system safety, and we begin moving from thinking about connection to practicing it—one inch at a time.
In this episode, we cover:
Why solitude feels like medicine (and when it turns into a cage)
The Instagram quote that inspired this series: theory vs. practice in love
Avoidance learning: how “canceling” teaches the brain to avoid again
Prediction error & the brain’s craving for certainty (why dating feels costly)
Shame sensitivity: how isolation shields us from feedback—but blocks intimacy
Social baseline theory: why life feels lighter with safe others
Window of tolerance: stretching without overwhelming your system
Negativity bias & rewriting the story your brain keeps replaying
Approach–avoidance conflict: wanting love and fearing it at the same time
Practical “open the door one inch” ideas: tiny exposures that build capacity
Guided visualization + journaling moments sprinkled throughout
Reflection Question of the Week:
What has your safe house given you, what has it cost you, and what would opening the door one inch look like this week?
Resources Mentioned:
Afsa Rosette’s quote on theory vs. practice (Instagram)
Avoidance learning & exposure principles (behavioral psychology)
Social baseline theory (co-regulation and reduced perceived effort)
Window of tolerance (Siegel; arousal & capacity)
Negativity bias (evolutionary psychology; why pain sticks)
Approach–avoidance conflict (motivational psychology)

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