Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

Hey there, Besties! Today, we are going to talk about the hype around Love Is Blind Season 5. It’s very unhinged so prepare yourself because we have a lot of catching up to do. 

Violetta shares her insights on the Season 5's casts and how they come off after binge-watching the episodes. From the insecurities of Jared, who's projecting his size anxieties, to Chris, the golden retriever of the group who oddly sees himself as a playboy, it's a rollercoaster ride of personalities and self-perception.

Amidst it all, Lydia's unnervingly straight-faced comfort moment and her declaration that, "You are so much like me," add a sprinkle of intrigue to this entertaining exploration of youthful relationships. Buckle up for a podcast that's as quirky as it is relatable, as we navigate the fascinating world of 20-something love, one eccentric character at a time.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:07 How are these people in their 20s?
• 02:19 Jared - projecting his insecurities about his size
• 04:14 Chris - gives off golden retriever vibes but he thinks people he’s a playboy
• 06:11 Johnie - she feels she needs to chase people for love
• 11:58 JP and Taylor - the love of your life say, “I used to care about looks, but not anymore.”
• 13:38 Lydia is a walking red flag
• 18:43 Uche’s biggest deal breaker is dishonesty
• 19:47 Aaliyah lacks self awareness to take accountability for her cheating
• 22:45 Did Uche want Aaliyah to feel bad so he could drop the ball about Lydia?
• 23:54 When Lydia comforted Aaliyah with a straight face
• 26:14 Lydia: “You are so much like me.” 

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Hey there, Besties! We've got some intriguing insights as we welcome today's guest, Katie Maloney. Katie is an American television personality and actress who gained fame for her appearances on the reality TV show Vanderpump Rules. Throughout her time on Vanderpump Rules, Katie's personal life, including her relationships and friendships, has been a central focus of the show.

Now, let's get real. Violetta sits down with Katie as she opens up about her past, navigating a high-profile divorce, and finding self-love in the process. From the lessons she learned from reality TV to the heartaches and healing that come with breakups, she's dishing out the good stuff. And, of course, the big question: Can you really stay friends with an ex? You don't want to miss this one!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:07 There’s a lot people don’t know about me
• 02:16 What’s your go-to during a bad day?
• 03:14 Describe me in one word
• 05:10 What’s something you wish people would ask you more often?
• 07:36 What’s the hardest thing about starting a business?
• 11:21 Sandwich flavors
• 14:16 All about Vanderpump Rules
• 18:42 Watching the show and absolutely have no idea what’s happening
• 19:53 Taken highly out of context
• 21:15 Lesson learned from reality TV
• 24:30 Did compatibility issues cause the divorce?
• 27:47 It’s done and final
• 28:27 When did you realize that the relationship was ending?
• 31:06 Start loving yourself
• 33:32 I just had to go through the pain
• 36:05 How did you get through the breakup?
• 39:10 Put yourself first
• 40:03 Possible to be friends with your ex?
• 41:21 Outpour of love and support from fans
• 42:57 To feel seen, heard, and supported
• 49:06 Rapid questions with Katie 

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Hey Besties! It's Confession Corner Tuesday, and our OG social media girl Violetta is back with some juicy fan confessions. We got a guy who lied about his job and stopped communicating after they spent a night together and this guy accidentally sh*ting himself while getting a head. Surprise! Surprise! Men never learn. Buckle up, because when it comes to confessions, the drama never ends! 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:39 Call #1: This guy I met on Tinder asked if size mattered
• 15:50 Call #2: He sh*t himself while I was giving him a bl*wj*b
• 21:21 Call #3: Dylan, you’re not a serious person about me being your sugar baby  

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They always say let go of your anger, let go of your pain, blah blah blah! But why doesn’t anyone talk about how using these “negative” feelings to your advantage to catapult you into your best season yet?

Hello, Besties! September is all about checking in with ourselves, our mental health, and with our goals. To kick things off Violetta is back with another solo episode and she is NOT here to sugarcoat. In today’s episode Violetta admits life has its ups and downs and it hasn’t been easy, but today she is thankful and you will be too by the end of the episode. 

Today, Violetta shares FOUR STEPS that can help anyone struggling internally, going through difficult and seemingly impossible situations, and help turn the negatives into optimism and positive change. Besties, let's use our pain and rage to turn the page starting today with this episode! 

What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:55 Let’s take a moment to be thankful
• 03:44 Low moments are necessary to transform you
• 07:06 Step #1: Ask yourself, “Is this working for me?”
• 10:07 Step #2: It’s all in your head
• 11:06 Step #3: Sit with rejection, be comfortable with it
• 12:50 Step #4: Turn your resentment into your superpower
• 14:35 Correlation between anger and passion to succeed
• 17:43 Your mind will continuously believe what you tell it

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Hey Besties! Today's a little different. We're kicking things off with some juicy dating tips, including the absolute must-ask questions to gauge if you're with Mr. or Ms. Right. Then, we're diving headfirst into a fun chat where Violetta talks about how she sees the characters of the Selling The OC cast. It might not be everyone's cup of tea, but it's still got that 'worth-watching' vibe!  

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:30 The 5 honest questions to ask yourself
• 04:30 Have you watched Crash Landing on You?
• 08:03 When you hear these three things on the first date, RUN!
• 10:32 Selling The OC - Tyler
• 14:03 Selling The OC - Jarvis and Rose
• 16:40 Selling The OC - Polly
• 17:10 Selling The OC - Alex Hall 
• 19:40 Selling The OC - Brandy
• 22:59 Selling The OC - Austin and Tyler
• 25:16 The lack of empathy for others
• 26:14 Someone really hates Jarvis because…
• 27:13 It was an escort party

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TW: Discussion about eating disorder, alcohol and drug abuse, sobriety, and self harm

Ever wondered why you're not happy all the time? Well, you're not supposed to be! It's okay not to feel the sunshine every day, and sometimes, the cloudy moments are what make the sunny ones shine even brighter.

Today, Violetta welcomes Laura Clery, a comedian and influencer best known for her comedy sketches and vlogs about her day-to-day life on social media. Laura shares how she grew in popularity through her viral characters’ Pamela Pumpkin and Hellen Horbath, and later pivoted to documenting her day to day life in a comedic sense.

From the highs and lows of existence to the complexities of relationships and personal growth, each chapter delves into the real, unfiltered moments that define our lives; finding humor in life's little annoyances, or navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce. Join us as we laugh and ponder the human experience, one chapter at a time.     

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:05 You’re not meant to feel happy all the time
• 03:51 Do we look alike?
• 06:33 The birth of Pamela Pumpkin 
• 09:01 Then Helen Horbath came to be
• 11:03 The failed pilot show, and then pregnancy came
• 13:23 Manifesting what you want in life
• 17:26 What’s driving me crazy right now
• 20:12 When taxes don’t make sense to you
• 21:22 Do you like talking to yourself?
• 23:43 A thousand random thoughts
• 28:51 I can’t imagine not existing…
• 33:26 Constant criticism about your looks
• 38:24 Competition is an illusion
• 40:39 Why are you getting a divorce?
• 43:23 Public breakup is never easy
• 48:38 Slowing down on work and prioritizing mental health
• 51:46 Implementing boundaries for inner peace
• 54:37 The human resilience in any situation
• 56:33 The effect of divorce on children
• 58:12 What do you do when you’re about to relapse?
• 01:02:21 You can only be strong for so long
• 01:05:21 The Serenity Prayer  

Connect with Laura on:

• https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSfJoOxzmSr5ibdGcLN3Ysg 
• https://www.instagram.com/lauraclery 
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Ever had those cringe-worthy moments that make you wish you could hit the rewind button on life? Well, we all do, and in this episode, we're diving headfirst into some hilariously embarrassing tales. From a power struggle in the education system to an intimate experience gone wrong that'll leave you in stitches. Oh, and don't forget the awkward moment you caught your dad staring through a slightly opened door while you were doing the deed. Yep, these stories are as real and relatable as they come. So get ready for some seriously entertaining, toe-curling moments that'll have you saying, "I've been there too!"

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:03 Story #1: Overloaded teacher 
• 13:12 Story #2: Disgusting, intimate experience
• 17:31 Story #3: Walked out while doing the deed
• 23:17 Story #4: The other guy was my crush

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Changing your perspective is like putting on a new pair of glasses that reveals a whole new world. It's essential because our outlook shapes our reality. When we shift our viewpoint, we unlock fresh insights, untapped potential, and a realm of possibilities that were previously hidden. 

Today, Violetta shares the three reasons why we remain stuck with where we are as well as the action steps we can take to move forward. From how our actions create our reality, how our emotions affect those actions, and the thoughts we have while taking action. It's all about shifting your mindset, and girl, you're about to crush it!   

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:40 The story you tell yourself
• 06:17 Phase 1 - Our actions create our reality
• 12:09 “Everything I’m doing, I chose to do.”
• 16:26 Phase 2 - Our emotions dictate our actions
• 20:09 Consumed by hatred
• 24:07 Do you want to be right or become free?
• 28:40 Phase 3 - Our thoughts affect our emotions
• 32:18 Positive thinking transforms your life
• 34:44 “Am I happy with the thoughts in my head?” 

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Breakups are tough but moving on can be even more challenging. Today, Violetta offers insights on becoming the IT girl when it comes to dating, post-breakup ways to move on from someone (based on real life experience), and some handy ghosting tricks for future use. 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:01 The best revenge is to move on
• 05:40 How to be the It Girl?
• 13:05 Ways to let go and move on
• 19:02 Ghosting tricks

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Have you considered the difference between what people want versus what they truly need in relationships, and how does this understanding impact your approach to forming connections? This introspective exploration can have a profound influence on how you approach building meaningful bonds. 

Today's guest is Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan. Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.

Violetta and Figs unveil the impact of childhood experiences on your ability to love and how self-sabotaging patterns might be holding you back and decode your attachment style and learn how taking responsibility for your actions and emotions can transform your connections. Whether you're seeking self-growth or hoping to form healthier bonds, don't miss out on this empowering conversation that peels back the layers of love, relationships, and healing.   

What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:14 Are you in a toxic relationship?
• 04:15 What can we do about a toxic partner?
• 06:23 When you’re in a threatened vulnerable state
• 08:02 Are you in a system together?
• 13:36 When in your reality your partner is hurting you
• 16:14 How childhood experiences affect our ability to love
• 17:56 Self-sabotaging patterns 
• 19:49 The natural fear to fall in love
• 23:31 Struggling to open up 
• 25:25 Know what’s your attachment style
• 29:18 Taking responsibility of our actions and emotions
• 33:21 Both need to show up for each other
• 36:28 Foster empathy for yourself and others
• 42:31 The gray area on first dates
• 47:36 Here’s what you should focus on when dating
• 50:07 Finding healing through forming relationships
• 55:31 What is a co-dependent relationship?
• 01:00:48 Doing self work to not attract what you lack
• 01:04:19 Glorification of people protecting themselves from getting hurt
• 01:07:29 What people really need is not what they want

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• https://empathi.com/ 
• https://www.tiktok.com/@empathinow 
• https://www.facebook.com/EmpathiNow/ 
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