In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're unpacking the messy, funny, painful, and oh-so-human mistakes we make in love—and why most of them aren't accidents at all, but patterns rooted in psychology, attachment, and our own unmet needs. From confusing chemistry with compatibility to breaking our own non-negotiables, I share the lessons I learned the hard way—and the science behind why we keep repeating them.

Blending humor, research, and personal stories, this conversation is equal parts therapy session, neuroscience breakdown, and a reminder that every "wrong one" shapes the way we eventually show up for the right love.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why chemistry feels intoxicating but often disguises incompatibility

• The trap of trying to change someone who didn't ask to be changed

• The difference between attention and affection—and why it matters

• How boundaries actually protect love instead of pushing people away

• The psychology of attachment, dopamine, and why your nervous system confuses chaos for passion

• Subtle relationship habits that sabotage intimacy without us realizing it

• The biggest lessons I wish I could tell my younger self about love, standards, and self-trust

• How to move forward without bitterness and keep your heart open

Reflection Question of the Week:

What's one relationship mistake you've made that you can now thank yourself for — because of what it taught you?

Resources Mentioned:

• Attachment theory research (Ainsworth, Bowlby, Hazan & Shaver)

• Fisher et al. (2010) on dopamine and early-stage romance

• Doidge (2007) on neuroplasticity and rewiring patterns

• Intermittent reinforcement studies on addiction and relationships

• Research on the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and selective attention

• Studies on boundaries, people-pleasing, and relationship satisfaction

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In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're breaking up with one of the most romanticized — and misleading — ideas in modern dating: the soulmate myth. From the "readiness" lie to the science behind why heartbreak feels like a broken bone, we unpack why believing in the one can actually hold you back from finding love that's real, healthy, and sustainable.

In this episode, we cover:

• How to tell if you're genuinely ready to start dating again (and why "ready" isn't a magical morning announcement from the universe).

• The neuroscience of heartbreak, emotional regulation, and why your nervous system knows before your mind does.

• The cultural origins of the soulmate myth and the psychological traps it creates.

• Why letting go of "the one" opens the door to better, freer, and more abundant love.

• Personal stories of past relationships that felt like fate — and what they really taught about love, growth, and self-worth.

Blending humor, storytelling, and research from psychology, neuroscience, and relationship science, this episode is both a reality check and a permission slip: you don't only get one great love story. You get many—and the next beautiful connection might arrive out of nowhere, long after you thought the best was behind you.

Reflection Question of the Week:

Think about one of the most beautiful connections you've ever had. How would it feel to trust that your next beautiful connection will arrive just as unexpectedly?

Resources Mentioned:

• Clinical Psychology Review (2021) study on emotional regulation and relationship readiness

• Fisher et al. (2010) research on heartbreak and the brain's reward system

• Knee et al. (2003) on destiny belief and relationship disengagement

• Boss (1999) on ambiguous loss

• Aron et al. (1997) on creating closeness with strangers

• Neuroplasticity research from Doidge (2007)

• Oxytocin and cortisol research (Ditzen et al., 2007)

• Companionate love study in Social Psychological and Personality Science (2012)

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In this tender, science-backed episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about why play isn't regression—it's repair. Using the Labubu phenomenon as a doorway, we unpack how nostalgia, variable reinforcement (dopamine), and "comfort consumerism" can actually be signals from the nervous system asking for softness and safety. We explore inner-child work through attachment theory and somatic psychology, grieve the life our parents imagined for us, and practice building one that finally feels like home. We also look at the only-child experience—why so many only children feel "wise beyond their years," and how to lovingly rebalance the "mini-adult" identity with real play.

This episode is for anyone who's ever thought, "Why do I feel guilty resting?" or "Why does joy feel… awkward?" and for the former gifted kids, good daughters, and only children who are learning to choose themselves with tenderness.

In this episode, we cover:

• What it means to stop earning love and let it land—soft, safe, unearned

• Why Labubu hits our reward circuitry: anticipation, novelty, and the neuroscience of nostalgia

• Play as protest: how silliness and awe regulate an overworked nervous system

• Inner child 101: theta-state learning (0–7), attachment blueprints, and introjected beliefs

• The quiet grief of leaving the life your parents wanted—and choosing alignment over optics

• Only-child psychology: adult modeling, upward scaffolding, "mini-adult" roles, and the peer-skills trade-off

• Gentle reparenting: journaling prompts that witness (not fix) your younger self

• Somatic first aid: regulate first (breath, vagal toning, cold splash, rocking), then reflect

• Joy reps & micro-rituals: building a daily rhythm your inner child feels safe in

• Boundaries that protect the child self: a soft no, a playful yes, and one clear limit where guilt used to live

• Reframe to keep: "Labubu isn't regression. It's resurrection."

Reflection Question of the Week:

What is one thing your inner child always longed for—but never received—and how can you give it to them now?

Let it be small. A ritual, a boundary, a $12 joy. Let it be yours.

Resources Mentioned:

• Bowlby & Ainsworth on Attachment Theory

• Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score

• EMDR & Internal Family Systems (IFS) approaches to trauma processing

• Research on dopamine, anticipation, and variable reinforcement

• Writing on comfort consumerism during economic stress

• Family Systems Theory on introjection and role consolidation (the only-child "mini-adult")

• Somatic practices for vagal toning and nervous-system regulation

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In this lighter (but still unhinged) episode of The Wrong Ones, we're switching things up with a special listener Q&A. From cosmic gaslighting and spiritual co-parenting offers to spreadsheet-date reviews and fake trips to Italy, you all seriously delivered.

We're answering 15 real questions submitted via Instagram—from the deeply relatable to the wildly absurd—serving up hot takes, red flag radars, and honest reflections on what it means to date in an era of soft launches and disappearing acts. Whether you're questioning your own dating patterns or just here for the chaos, this episode offers equal parts insight, validation, and laughs.

If you've ever wondered:

• Is he actually healing or just emotionally unavailable with a better PR team?

• Are you being too picky or just asking the wrong person?

• And… does he really deserve a response if he gifted a fake Italy trip in front of his family?

This one's for you.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why your relationship timelines matter more than his comfort zone

• The art of catching feelings after one good date (and why it doesn't mean you're delulu)

• A guy who Venmo requested for a drink he drank… and called it feminism

• Green flags vs trauma dumps: is vulnerability or manipulation?

• What to do when your ex comes back from the digital dead like nothing happened

• Fake trip gifting, ChatGPT love notes, and Google Doc performance reviews

• When to wait… and when to walk away

• Dating older men: evolved maturity or intentional bachelorhood?

• What healthy texting habits actually look like

• Why some guys treat love like a startup pitch deck

• And the question that matters most: are you abandoning yourself to keep someone else?

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In this searingly honest episode of The Wrong Ones, we crack open the blueprint that governs who we love, how we attach, and why we often mistake chaos for chemistry. Using a viral Call Her Daddy interview as a launch point, we go deep into the heart of relational trauma—unpacking what it means to grow up in silence, perform for love, and unconsciously seek out men who echo the wounds of our fathers.

This isn't just about heartbreak—it's about history. We explore the intersection of psychology, neurobiology, and cultural legacy to understand why so many women—especially daughters of Middle Eastern families—feel safest in relationships that are anything but safe.

We talk about the invisible grief of feeling unknown by the people who were supposed to know you best. The generational inheritance of silence. The father wound. The good daughter myth. And how healing starts when we stop auditioning for love and start choosing it—with ourselves first.

This episode is an anchor for anyone who's ever thought, "Why do I keep ending up here?" and a lifeline for the women finally ready to say: no more.

In this episode, we cover:

• What it means to outgrow the version of you who survived through performance

• Attachment blueprints and how your nervous system confuses trauma with love

• The cultural double bind faced by Middle Eastern daughters: silence or betrayal

• Why emotional addiction is real—and how it mimics chemical addiction

• How generational trauma is passed down, not just through behavior, but biology

• The neuroscience of intermittent reinforcement and trauma bonding

• The grief of never being emotionally known by your father—and what that does to your sense of self

• The myth of the "good daughter" and how it sets the stage for self-abandonment in love

• High-functioning trauma and the mask of the "cool girl"

• Why real love often feels boring to an unhealed nervous system

• Reparenting your inner child and breaking the cycle of dating your wounds

• Somatic healing tools to regulate your nervous system and interrupt the pattern

• Forgiveness as emotional liberation—not validation

• The cost of healing when it means leaving behind who you had to be

• What it means to choose a love that doesn't hurt—and how to recognize it when it arrives

Reflection Question of the Week: What does love feel like in a body that no longer thinks it has to earn it?

Let this one live in your journal. Or your voice notes. Or your next first date.

Resources Mentioned:

• Bowlby & Ainsworth's Attachment Theory

• Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score

• EMDR & Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy

• Research on dopamine, trauma bonding & intermittent reinforcement (Volkow et al.)

• Middle Eastern honor culture & the role of silence in female identity formation

• The neuroscience of emotional addiction & nervous system dysregulation

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In this deeply resonant episode of The Wrong Ones, we unpack the quiet collapse that often begins in your 30s—the decade that doesn't just change you, but dismantles you. This is the chapter of your life where things look fine on the outside, but inside? Something feels… off. Misaligned. Exhausted. Unrecognizable.

We explore the psychology, neuroscience, and emotional unraveling behind this transformative season of life. From identity dissonance and nervous system collapse to ambiguous grief and the slow return to self, this episode is a tender roadmap for anyone who's ever asked, "Why doesn't this life I built feel like mine?"

We talk about what it means to grieve a version of yourself that no longer fits, the loss of imagined futures, the discomfort of peace when you've lived in survival mode, and the sacred messiness of becoming. And we close with a breakdown on why we choose the wrong people when we're unhealed—and how healing changes who we let into our lives.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why your 30s feel like a nervous system breakdown disguised as growth

• Identity dissonance, depersonalization, and why you feel like a stranger in your own life

• The neuroscience of "quiet collapse" and how your brain rewires under stress

• Ambiguous grief and the loss of a life you thought would make you happy

• Post-traumatic growth, regulation dominance, and the recalibration of self

• The emotional and biological shift from performance to presence

• Why peace can feel suspicious when you've lived in chaos

• Attachment, fawning, and how self-abandonment starts to feel unbearable

• Reinvention as a solitary process—and why loneliness often comes before alignment

• How your nervous system influences who you date, love, and let in

• Trauma bonding, dopamine burnout, and the reason chaos feels like chemistry

• The difference between being chosen and feeling safe

• Why healing changes your entire social life, including friendships

• What it means to stop chasing clarity and start living in complexity

Reflection Question of the Week: What version of yourself are you grieving—and who are you becoming in their place? Or—what's one version of yourself you've outgrown, and what are you learning to choose instead?

Resources Mentioned:

• Erik Erikson's Psychosocial Development Theory

• Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score

• Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy

• Donald Winnicott's Theory on the Capacity to Be Alone

• Research on trauma bonding, dopamine burnout, and prediction error signaling

• Volkow et al. studies on reward pathways in addiction

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In this raw, unfiltered episode of The Wrong Ones, we're diving deep into the messy, heartbreaking, and psychologically complex experience of loving someone with a substance abuse problem. From the quiet patterns that creep in slowly to the explosive moments of clarity, we explore how addiction can erode intimacy, distort reality, and entangle you in cycles of denial, secrecy, and shame.

We explore the neuroscience of addiction, what it does to the brain, why addicts lie (even when they love you), and the impossible reality of holding on to someone who is actively losing themselves. Our host shares a deeply personal story—from subtle red flags to undeniable truths—and explores how cultural norms (like Irish drinking culture), family trauma, and the desire to heal others can trap us in relationships that drain us. We talk about Carl Radke, trauma bonding, the self-medication theory, intergenerational addiction, and what it means to break the cycle.

Whether you've been in a relationship like this, grew up in a home like this, or just want to better understand the invisible weight addiction puts on those who love someone through it—this episode is for you.

In this episode, we cover:

• The subtle signs of substance abuse in a romantic partner

• The neurobiology behind why addicts lie, dissociate, and escalate

• How cultural norms (like Irish drinking culture) complicate recognition

• What it means to love someone through addiction—and why that love can turn into a drug of its own

• Personal reflections on trauma bonding, emotional self-abandonment, and the path back to clarity

• Why women are socially conditioned to endure dysfunction in the name of love

• Carl Radke's story as a mirror for relational addiction

• How addiction impacts children, especially sons of alcoholic fathers

• Birth order, emotional inheritance, and what it means to be "the youngest"

• Tools and truths for loving someone through addiction without losing yourself

Reflection Question of the Week: What was modeled to me as "normal" in childhood that I now recognize as dysfunction?

Resources Mentioned:

• The Viall Files episode with Carl Radke

• Research on intergenerational addiction

• Literature on self-medication theory, trauma bonding, and emotional codependency

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This week on The Wrong Ones, we're talking about what happens when your growth becomes a threat to someone who once claimed to love you.

Why do so many women feel the need to dim their light to protect a man's ego? Why is a woman's ambition seen as disruptive rather than magnetic? And why is it still considered "special" when a man supports his partner's success—but simply expected when women do the same?

In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology, social conditioning, and nervous system toll behind the invisible labor women carry in heterosexual relationships. We unpack the emotional and biological costs of self-silencing, the dynamics of threatened masculinity, and how internalized patriarchy quietly rewrites our sense of worth.

Featuring personal stories, pop culture case studies (hi, Paige DeSorbo, Beyoncé, Molly-Mae), and grounded clinical insights—this episode is part manifesto, part mirror, and full permission to take up space without guilt.

Topics We Cover:

• Why women are conditioned to shrink in relationships

• The "Support Paradox" and public reactions to female success

• How male insecurity shows up as withdrawal, criticism, or silence

• The psychology of identity threat, reactive devaluation & attachment theory

• The nervous system effects of self-silencing & chronic suppression

• Intermittent reinforcement and emotional addiction

• What secure, emotionally mature support actually looks like

• How to stop making yourself small to feel lovable

Reflection Question of The Week: What would your life look like if you stopped apologizing for your ambition? ----- As always: if you're enjoying the show, please take a moment to follow, rate, and subscribe — it truly helps us grow and reach more listeners.

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This week, we're cracking open the psychology behind why we think everything is a sign after a breakup. From seeing their name everywhere to believing that shared Spotify playlists are soul contracts, we unpack the truth behind what's really going on in the brain—and the heart—when you're grieving someone who's already gone.

We'll talk about:

• The Reticular Activating System (RAS) and how it filters your reality post-breakup

• The myth of the Twin Flame and why it keeps so many of us stuck

• How emotional addiction and intermittent reinforcement masquerade as love

• The cultural delulu spiral (Persian–Irish edition) and finding signs in everything

• Why grief isn't always loud—and the quiet rituals we rarely talk about

• The difference between a relationship ending… and your identity unraveling with it

This one is part science, part heartbreak, part spiritual unlearning. It's for anyone who's ever asked the universe for a sign—and secretly hoped it would say go back.

So if you've been searching for answers in angel numbers, Spotify algorithms, or strangers who vaguely resemble your ex… this episode is for you.

Reflection Question(s) of The Week:

What am I calling a sign… because I'm too afraid to call it an ending? Where am I mistaking spiritual alignment for emotional avoidance?

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In this deeply personal episode of The Wrong Ones, I'm opening up about the connection between heartbreak, body image, and disordered eating. This isn't an easy one—but it's the most honest I've ever been.

I take you through the origins of my relationship with food, from a hyper-health-conscious upbringing to my diagnosis with hypothyroidism and later, Hashimoto's. I share how a breakup became the catalyst for one of the darkest periods of my life, when eating disorders weren't just about thinness — they were about survival, control, and trying to be "enough."

This episode blends:

• Real psychology on attachment trauma, fawning, and self-worth

• Medical insights on thyroid health, T3/T4, and autoimmune burnout

• The messy truth about love, shame, and trying to hold on to someone who had already let go

If you've ever felt like you had to earn love by erasing yourself, this episode is for you.

Reflection Question of the Week:

What do you like most about yourself?

Trigger warning: This episode contains open and raw discussions about eating disorders, disordered eating behaviors, and body image. Please take care while listening.

Follow along for more vulnerable, relatable, and laugh-through-the-tears conversations on love, heartbreak, and the art of becoming.

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